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We need to demystify genitals if we want people to have a healthy relationship to their bodies, and be able to have healthy relationships with one another.
I also remember the first time I got in trouble for playing that game. Why is sexting a word? Couch Potato versus Couch Surfing Potato.
I’ll show you mine if you show me yours
Show me yours. Me too. But we really wanna see your Helen. This perspective le to encouraging abstinence, to keeping your private parts private. Too much challenge le to recession, not growth. Delivered free and with zero advertising by FeedBurner. Worse, we think of them as our family jewels.
And I do. Pretty freaking uncomfortable, right? Sorry for the double gotcha. A lot of us treat them with the fear and reverence of Voldemort. If we satisfy the first two cultural shifts, this one will follow naturally. Then I show you mine. We have the technology.
Pantsless Nightmares the title of my forthcoming memoir. Why are we so afraid of genitals? We refer to our genitals as our private parts.
Other subscription options here. Those words! Can you imagine playing Red Rover at a work retreat with the same glee and wonder as you did on the playground?
You show me yours and i’ll show you mine
The Trojan War is pretty famous. Hahahaha kidding. We will see your penis. Sorry to freak you out. Latest: The Radical Fringe. When facing the unknown, humans generally react in one of two ways with millions of subtle variations: fear or curiosity. I say so. The exact opposite is true. You know, like in the movies. These are my three arguments for how we can make that happen.
I’ll show you mine if you’ll show me yours
When faced with talking about, thinking about, interacting with genitals, and all the unknowns and taboo circulating all of this, a lot of us react with fear. Are you okay? Unfortunately, common sense is often the best way to be completely wrong about humans. That made me really uncomfortable.
You show me yours and i’ll show you mine
But I wanted to take you here, and to walk you down this thought road, because I think that there is a lot of value in going here hypothetically, even if there is no intention of going here societally. Is it normal? I was terrified.
And who is the winner? Ultimately, I want you — your whole you — to be able to be happy. And, like genital xenophobia, this creates a lot of not-so-healthy interactions with gender. And it would also terrify so many people that it would likely backfire and cause more harm than good.
This makes us unique.
One of my favorite shows, Scrubsfeatures Elliot Reed, a doctor who is unable to say the proper words for sexual anatomy and instead has a ton of hilarious replacement words. Like so:. Ever the jokester, Sam. But I am totally serious. Why do you think teens have entire websites dedicated to asking strangers about their genitals? I can make that happen.
People born with vaginas are shamed if they do, because biology. Exploiting self-consciousness in advertising will also help, and we can stop as individuals, with our dollars supporting companies that do this. Did you play that game as a kid? So simple in their complexity. And by dreams I mean nightmares. Some people call it Doctor.
Is this okay? This is too much. Starting from a young age, using the proper words sorry, Dr. Reed is a great way to start. We internalize a message that our genitals are valuable, sacred, meant to be defended and safeguarded, and that we are gatekeepers and the world is full of would-be keymasters. What should we do? Diminishing the taboo will help, as it will hopefully lead to more open dialogue. We have the internet. Terrifying Abyss versus The Final Frontier. Like the way we view our noses.
I'll show you mine if you show me yours first
Do you want new posts in your inbox? So, how are we Troy, the city with fabled impenetrable walls, as well as the Achaeans, the enemies who breached those walls and destroyed the city? Too hypothetical. Xenophobia versus Wanderlust. Are you normal? To wrap things in a nice horse-shaped package [phrasing]: we simultaneously are working to keep something in obscurity while we are trying to uncover it.
Subscribe Free. Anyone who has seen hundreds of real-life genitals like a doctor, or someone who has sex with hundreds of people can tell you that genitals are like snowflakes: no two are identical. But above all, as I always say, the best thing you can do is work to make sure that the people in your immediate life are unashamed of who they are. The opposite is true on all three s.
are poison. But romance! We want to see their Helen if you know what I meanand are encouraged to devise a of strategies to do that. We mature in so many ways but one. My three requests. We are Achaeans. How uncomfortable does that idea make you?
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Terri Wingham is the founder and CEO of A Fresh Chapter, a cancer survivor, and someone who believes that we are not defined by the most difficult aspects of our story.